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Painting Goodbye

7/5/2017

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I awoke that Thursday morning with my mom on my heart, although there hadn’t been much sleep at all. From one thousand miles away, I could feel her, and what I felt, felt like leaving. She had been admitted to the hospital the night before with an infection in her leg. It sounded simple but, in the pit of my stomach, I knew it was not going to be simple at all.

The sun was still below the horizon when I meandered into my studio and turned on the quiet little lamp on the ink stained table. The stains were my favorite part of the table and I held them as evidence that something important was happening.

For some reason, certain poppies fluttered in my head – those same poppies I'd painted last fall when I was dabbling in acrylics. Mom loved them. Why didn’t I give them to her for Christmas? Why was I waiting for her birthday? Sure, she loved the snowman catching snowflakes painting, but is there a rule that says a daughter can’t give her mom two paintings while everyone else gets just one? No. No rule. Just worry. Always worry.

The poppies had been hanging on the wall to cover the nail where the clock used to hang, left empty when, after changing its battery, I couldn't get it back in place. Poppies, I though, would do. The more I looked at them, the less beautiful they became until one day I laughed right out loud thinking about how Mom was being Mom, praising my first attempt. I mean, it was not that bad, but it wasn’t that good, either. However, to a Mom who paints, this art adventure I had discovered was too good to be true and she was excited by anything I painted – not necessarily because it was good, but because it existed at all. She joyfully received and displayed any piece I gave her. Maybe she was holding them as evidence that something important was happening. Even in her 80’s, my mom celebrated her eldest daughter opening to herself. Still, I took them off the wall, deciding the bare nail was more pleasing than my first stab at poppies.

There, in the studio, the poppies filled my mind as I imagined Mom lying so far away, dwarfed by a hospital bed surrounded by things that beep and blink and keep track of her on the inside.
Could I be with her, I wondered, when I was nowhere near her?

In the stillness around me, I felt the answer: Poppies.

My eyes landed on the large 10”x 14” shiny white tiles I had bought from the hardware store just a day or two before. This new size was appealing and I had set them aside where they waited patiently. The surface was as smooth as glass and cold to the touch. Alcohol ink would slip and slide nicely. My inks had been unused for a few months, but now they called out promises of poppies. I gathered up all of the watercolor materials I’d been playing with and put them away. In their place I set up a rainbow of ink bottles, 91% alcohol spray, clean paper towels, and then rummaged through shelves and boxes until I found my lazy susan, which went in the middle of it all. The large tile fit nicely on the turntable. After giving it a slow turn, which caused gentle bobbles of my lamps, followed by some adjusting and another slow turn, I was ready.

For what might have been ten minutes, or maybe an hour or more, I painted poppies for my mother. It all seems more like a wispy cloud than a memory, shifting and moving as I try to name it. Tears streamed silently while I softly sang, over and over again- be not afraid. I go before you always. The ink flowed and moved as if guided by a secret force.

Don’t be afraid, Mom, I thought, believing she could hear my thoughts. Don’t be afraid. Please, just please; don’t be afraid I whispered as the green ink trailed up into the sky, forming stems awaiting petals. I asked God to help her not be afraid, make her pain go away, and keep her safe. The song kept coming around and around; Come, follow me, and I will give you rest. One by one, poppies emerged in brilliant red against the azure sky. 

Friday was hauntingly quiet. My phone never left my hand... it was so quiet. Mostly, I listened to music and prayed, asking God to give my mother peace, and my father strength.

The next morning was Saturday and, again, I was up before the sun in my studio preparing another tile. I began filling the cold, smooth field of white with warm yellow ink, like rays of sunshine bursting forth from a single point just right of center, singing to my mom all the while, believing she could hear me; you are my sunshine, my only sunshine. Within hours she was gone. My husband and I, with the dog in the back seat, began our two day journey across the thousand mile line on the map for the only goodbye left to say.

I thought of the paintings and wondered if there was any way at all she could have actually sensed me with her during those early morning hours? I felt her. Could she feel me back?
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ADDITION: 3/6/2017
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These paintings inspired a beautiful book for children, written by L.L. Barkat and published by T.S. Poetry Press on July 25, 2017. A is for Azure: The Alphabet in Colors is now available on Amazon.com.  
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16 Comments
Sandra Heska King link
7/5/2017 13:17:29

So beautiful, Donna. I'm believing that she felt you.

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Donna Falcone
7/5/2017 13:19:23

Me too. Thank you, Sandra.

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Bethany
7/5/2017 13:50:21

"Even in her 80’s, my mom celebrated her eldest daughter opening to herself."

This is such a moving tribute to your mother. Mom encouraging her daughter on, and daughter singing and painting peace for her mom.

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Donna Falcone
7/5/2017 13:53:10

Thank you, Bethany.

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Lenoir Randall
7/5/2017 14:46:50

Tears in my eyes. She knew, she heard and, now, she sees her poppies. She is smiling.

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Donna Falcone
7/5/2017 15:04:06

That makes me smile. Thank you, Lenoir. :)

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michelle ortega link
7/5/2017 17:24:08

She could feel you then, and I feel you now. Thank you for sharing! <3

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Donna Falcone
7/5/2017 18:00:50

Thank you, Michelle. I like to think so, too. <3

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Megan Willome link
7/6/2017 06:20:43

I love the theme of evidence through this piece. And the deep knowing between you two over many miles.

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Donna Falcone
7/6/2017 10:25:56

Thanks, Megan. :)

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Libby
7/7/2017 07:58:01

Such love, straight from your heart to hers. you got to believe y'all were connected in thought, love and prayer. Peace to you and yours.

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Donna Falcone
7/7/2017 13:33:36

I like to think so, right? I mean, it was a powerful feeling. Thank you, Libby.

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Maureen link
8/3/2017 15:51:57

You abide in love, Donna. Sending tender hugs for your deep loss.

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Donna
8/5/2017 05:32:54

Thank you, Maureen. I can feel those tender hugs. xo

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Christie
9/20/2019 14:04:32

I believe things happen or do not happen for a reason! Had you given your Mom the poppy painting, she may have had to say goodbye to another piece of you both. I see, hear, and feel the loved ones that have gone before every day in so many people and things...their legacy! 💜♥️

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Donna Falcone
9/20/2019 14:20:17

Turn turn turn, yes? Thanks Christie! Wise words. ❤️

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